M. is a smart and charming thirty, who nevertheless suffers from an obsession: to have sex constantly where, whenever and with whomever she wishes! In fact, given the sexist prejudices about the erotic role and the “proper” behavior of women, it is not at all easy for her to admit it. However, every time she meets a man, the thought of making love to him Dominatrix London automatically comes to her mind and she can not resist, although she is well aware that the manifestation of this invincible sexual desire will eventually cause her a few social and personal problems.

The exact opposite happens with K. He is twenty-nine years old and suffers from a serious amorous disappointment he had four years ago. When his girlfriend decided to divorce him, he shut himself in and has been looking for “comfort” every night in the pornographic universe of the Internet. Two extreme, but not so rare, cases that nevertheless have a common denominator: a strong erotic predisposition that forces the one who suffers from sexual addiction to have erotic actions, ignoring the serious consequences that may have on him or others.

These seem to be perfectly normal people who experience an unusually high level of sexual desire, which usually, due to inherent psychological or physical dysfunctions, fails to express itself in a normal way. Even for the experienced specialist doctor (sexologist) it is not easy to immediately realize that these are people addicted to sex (sexual addict).

As for the real biopsychological causes of the compulsive pursuit of sexual satisfaction, they may well be attributed either to psychological trauma during tender childhood or to neurological or hormonal dysfunctions. Indeed, the scientific community has not, so far, decided whether the primary causes are purely psychological-social or whether, on the contrary, they all relate to specific abnormalities in the structure and function of the erotomaniac brain (see Box).

As many psychotherapists assure us, the analysis of sex addicts shows that these individuals have usually experienced various traumatic experiences during their childhood, which they later tried to “manage” through some form of compulsive sexual addiction. As for social psychologists, they insist that the occurrence and exacerbation of these phenomena is determined solely by social factors. Primarily from the rapid transition from the sexophobic culture that prevailed in the western world until the 1960s, to the sexophile “libertarian” culture of our time.

And they are certainly right about the significant influence that prevailing social and cultural norms play in shaping postmodern sexual freedom: if you do not have at least seven sexual intercourses a week you are now considered almost abnormal and of course sexually oppressed! The fact, however, that this forced and orgiastic erotic activity has created new disorders, such as e.g. The great anxiety about the almost athletic excess of our sexual performance, does not seem to seriously concern the late fans of today’s erotic “freedom”.

As for the old-fashioned notion of “abnormal” in our erotic practices, it de facto lacks meaning at a time when our erotic desires are being manipulated by the media and mediated by the Internet. Indeed, today’s sex slaves saw the entry of the Internet into their love life as a great upheaval: it releases their “precast” erotic fantasy and satisfies their most extreme erotic fantasies!

This unprecedented phenomenon of Internet Sexual Addiction with anonymous, and therefore rewarding, access to “cyber sex” is for more and more people a form of escape from their often gray and commonplace erotic reality. People with completely inadequate real love life are turning to the Internet today, seeking to “virtually” replenish their hitherto unfulfilled sexual appetites. Over time, the addiction to virtual sex paralyzes all the possibilities that these people had for real sexual intercourse, and of course it is absolutely destructive when it comes to young people!

From what we have said about the factors that make up “sexual addiction” (biological predispositions, hormonal-brain dysfunctions, childhood trauma, the breakdown of established social patterns) we hope that it is clear that the causes of this complex biopsychological phenomenon are open and Request for a new social order is now more relevant than ever.

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